How To Keep Your Wedding Day Stress-Free

Remember, your wedding is about you. That includes your mental health! Although the aesthetics, glam, florals, and guest lists of your wedding day are a total blast to plan, you feeling good is so much more important than anything else. We totally understand that it can be hard to prioritize yourself when it feels like you have a million things to do. After all, it’s not every day you have to plan a whole wedding. You’re not alone in this though! We’re here to help you along the way, starting with our guide on keeping your wedding day stress-free!

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How to Stay Stress-Free Before Your Wedding

Happy Mental Health Awareness Month! Although planning a fabulous wedding is a worthwhile pursuit, don’t forget that your mental health is always the priority! Even during your engagement and the whole wedding planning process. We know what you’re thinkings though, easier said than done. We get it! So, how can you help yourself stay stress-free during this transition period and all the crazy life events that come with it? Here are some of our favorite tips!

Make Time for Self-Care to Stay Stress-Free

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It may sound cliché, but self-care should be at the top of your wedding checklist. With all the budgeting, timelines, and emotional strain of planning your best day ever, it’s easy to neglect the day-to-day routines that keep you sane. Here are a few ways to stay grounded:

• Daily or weekly meditation sessions
• A brunch or spa day with your wedding party
• Read fun novels
• Watch feel-good movies or your go-to comfort TV show
• Go on a hike or walk your dog to get some sun
• Unplug from social media
• Use PTO from work to take a fun day trip
• Order takeout for dinner on a stressful day
• Color, draw, or paint something to let out a little creativity
• Spend a morning at your favorite coffee shop
• Buy fresh flowers or arrange a bouquet from your garden
• Catch up sleep with some afternoon naps
• Enjoy time with your sweetheart

Prioritize and Delegate Wedding Planning Responsibilities

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Brides-to-be often put pressure on themselves to do everything alone. If asking for help doesn’t come naturally, start with one trusted family member or friend you know can help outsource tasks, check in with you on a regular basis, and make decisions on your behalf. Trust us, delegating does wonders to help keep you stress-free. 

Things that are easy to delegate to other members of the wedding party:

• Researching vendors
• Picking up deliveries and running errands
• DIY craft projects
• Pooling funds for the bachelorette party and bridal shower
• Asking for potluck contributions
• Tracking an online guest book, e.g., RSVPs and meal selections
• Assisting the wedding photographer; rounding up family members for photos
• Brainstorming menu and bar options
• Creating a wedding dance playlist
• Directing family members to set up and tear down the venue

Leaning on your support team for stress relief is necessary for wedding planning. Make sure to openly communicate your feelings with your trusted people to get the mental and emotional support you need.

Staying Stress-Free: Hire a Wedding Planner

If your budget allows, hiring a professional planner or day-of coordinator can make all the difference in stress-free wedding planning. Even if you don’t opt for a full-service planning package, you can still make sure everyone you hire and enlist is skilled, dependable, and helpful.

Consider Pre-Marital Counseling

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We know “couples therapy” sounds scary, but it can be a very helpful tool to keep couples stress-free while they plan their wedding! Discussing your anxiety, fears, and expectations for the newlywed life is an excellent way to de-stress before the big event. This is especially true if getting married coincides with major life changes like moving in together, buying a home, having kids, or bringing together children from previous relationships. Here are a few big-ticket items you might tackle in therapy:

• Marriage expectations and role beliefs
• Past trauma with breakups, family, and life events
• The decision to have or not have children
• Financial management
• Conflict resolution styles
• Intimacy and communication, e.g., your “love language”
• Setting boundaries
• Your ideological approaches to religion, politics, family, and work

Give Yourself Breaks to Stay Stress-Free

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When it comes to tracking details for your wedding planning, it’s easy to go overboard and forget to make time for yourself. Remind yourself to take breaks from social media and wedding sites, and schedule times for you and your partner to drop planning altogether.

If you take a weekend vacation, set a “no wedding chat” rule. Weekdays may be particularly hectic, so limit your wedding stress to one hour in the morning or evening, and table it for the rest of the workday. If reception décor, magazines, and color swatches are taking over your living room, schedule a time to purge and reset! Taking care of yourself and staying stress-free is 100% a priority just as much as everything else is.

Eat Well and Exercise to Help Manage Stress

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We just want to start by saying that whatever makes you feel good and makes you happy are things we recommend! However, there are links between stress and exercise that may be helpful for you to explore before your wedding day. One of the best ways to stay stress-free is to start moving your body, even for a few minutes—it’s scientifically proven to reset your system and get you out of a negative headspace!

• Once you add a little movement to your wedding planning routine, keep the momentum going with these health and wellness tips:
• If you’re short on time, focus on 20-minute energizing yoga or aerobics sessions.
• Add fresh fruit and veggies to every meal.
• Stay hydrated with yummy fruit-infused or minty water.
• Add strength training to your exercise regimen.
• Cut back on eating out; this can wreak havoc on your budget and nutrition.
• Focus on holistic care, nutrition, and clarity of mindset, not just “results” on a scale.
• Don’t let a lapse discourage you; get back on track and acknowledge your progress!
• Focus on foods high in vitamin B, omega-3 fatty acids, magnesium-rich, protein-rich, and gut-healthy foods—these are proven to help relieve stress and anxiety!

Make Time for You and Your Partner

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This stress-free tip may seem obvious, but with all the wedding planning stress, the intimacy between your partner and you may get lost in the shuffle! The days and weeks leading up to the wedding are the perfect time to reconnect! To keep up with your partner frequently, make sure to plan regular date nights together, whether you’re going out or hanging out at home.

Staying Stress-Free: Stick to Your Budget

• Start saving early
• Designate non-negotiable and negotiable items, i.e., things you definitely want vs. things you could do without
• Itemize spreadsheets for trackability and accounting
• Know who will contribute: parents, in-laws, and friends
• Figure out your guest count
• Save money with an off-season date, venue, or time of day
• Create a wedding and honeymoon registry
• Allocate a percentage of the budget for unexpected costs

Here’s a list of unexpected wedding costs that might crash your budget and kill your stress-free vibe:

• Tips for vendors not included in invoices
• Wedding gown alterations
• Last-minute cleaning or repairs for suits and dresses
• Stationery add-ons like stamps
• Rental transport and setup fees
• Hidden equipment add-ons for the music, bar, and rental setup
• Hotel fees for things like delivery bags and transport

Make sure to dive into our wedding budget tips blog for more information on how to budget for your wedding day!

Make a Plan B to Stay Stress-Free If Things Go Sideways

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Despite your best-laid plans, disaster tends to strike at the most inconvenient moments while planning your wedding. To keep your event as stress-free as possible, prep for unexpected meltdowns, including:

• Inclement weather for outdoor venues (read our blog on weatherproofing your outdoor wedding!)
• Mistakes on the guest list
• Last-minute vendor mix-ups or cancellations
• A wedding party member feels under the weather or has an emergency
• Guest accommodation issues, e.g., booking hotel rooms too late.
• Damage or delay on your wedding dress
• Noise complaints—common for backyard weddings
• Unanticipated guests, including plus-ones and kids
• Wedding license or officiant errors

How to Stay Stress-Free on Your Wedding Day

Set Your Day-Of Plan

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While all the wedding planning stress is finally behind you, you might be experiencing some day-of jitters! Don’t worry, we have some tips for the big day as well:

• Communicate your wedding timeline
• Stock up on drinks and snacks
• Pre-pack an emergency kit
• Delegate questions to your MOH
• Bring comfy dancing shoes
• Set time alone with your sweetheart with a First Look, private toast, or gift exchange

Don’t put it all on yourself! Make sure to let your bridesmaids, MOH, and/or wedding planner what you need for the big day, so they keep everything organized as well.

Prepare for Anything to Stay Stress-Free

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Preparation is key! Your wedding day will have many highs, and hopefully by preparing for the worst, very few lows. Check out these ideas for how to ensure your day goes smoothly:

• Pack a bridal bag: a water bottle, Tylenol, stain remover, wet wipes, sunscreen, bug spray, sewing kit, and Band-Aids (for your feet for a day in heels!).
• Prepare for rain or snow with clear umbrellas (useful and cute for photos!).
• Print your wedding day timeline for you, your bridesmaids, and any other important people on your big day.
• Make sure to eat before your big day and snack while you get ready! You might get too caught up in the moment to eat anything during the reception and you want to stay on your A-game!

Delegate Tasks to Bridesmaids

They’re called a bride squad for a reason! Make sure to lean on your bridesmaids on your wedding day to keep you stress-free and focused on your partner. They can handle the nitty gritty, you just need to focus on getting married!

Staying Stress-Free: Make Time for You and Your Partner

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Making time for you and your partner is just as important on your wedding day as it was before. With a million things to take care of and people to chat with, make sure to take care of your partner too! Take a look at some ways to reconnect and decompress together on the big day:

• Eat separately at the reception away from the other guests.
• Have a private moment before the ceremony to exchange personal vows instead of in front of everyone.
• Take an early morning walk together to reconnect.
• Ditch tradition and get ready together away from your bridesmaids and groomsmen!

Plan a Relaxing Wedding Day Activity

It’s also important to reconnect with yourself and friends and family on your wedding day as well. Consider booking one of the following activities right before your wedding day to make your day as stress-free as you can:

• A sunrise yoga class with you and your bridesmaids.
• An early morning breakfast with you and your family (one last one before you’re a bride!)
• An individual massage or couples massage for you and your partner.
• A quick mimosa toast between you and your bridesmaids.

Don’t Forget What the Day Is All About!

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Last, but certainly not least, remember that at the end of the day, you’re not having a wedding just to “plan an event”—you’re marrying the love of your life! With that in mind, here’s how to deal with wedding planning stress: Get back to the happy parts and just enjoy the weirdness of it all. A wedding is just the start of your exciting, lifelong adventure!

Now that you have our guide on keeping yourself stress-free while planning your wedding, it’s time to let our team of Authorized Retailers pamper you and your besties! Schedule your bridal appointment today and get ready to enjoy an afternoon of pure bridal fun!

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