What are my bridal-shower responsibilities as the maid of honor? They’re good to know, you know? There’s no shame in starting with the basics, especially if you’re the type to neglect a cactus, let alone a nuptials event. Traditionally as the maid of honor, you plan and host the bridal shower. You help with the bride’s logistics, such as the guest list and venue. If the party is going to be a surprise, you coordinate the mischief, and then provide the cute hors d’oeuvres and run the activities at the shower. And while this essentially sounds like you’re in charge of everything at all times, you really just need to understand how to delegate. Which bridesmaids can DIY the invitations? Who has some great ideas for bridal shower themes? Who knows how to bake a cheesecake? Can the bride’s aunt host in her gorgeous backyard? More than likely, everyone will be happy to help!
Who is supposed to throw the bridal shower? Tradition points to you, but it’s not required. Sometimes it’s viewed as a faux pas for the mother of the bride to host the shower (it may give the impression the family is asking for presents), but this has changed in recent years. The host/hostess can be anyone from the bride’s aunts or the bride’s mom’s friends, to coworkers or someone from the groom’s family. But just because you’re not hosting in your tiny apartment doesn’t mean you’re off the hook—coordinate with the host to see how you can contribute and take on assignments!
What theme should I have for the bridal shower? Tea and snacks are a great bridal shower theme, but don’t feel like you have to play it safe. Think about the bride! What does she geek out about? Where does she work? How did she and her partner meet? Pick a theme that makes her and her event feel unique. Planning a shower for the summer? Have a pool party! Is your bride a foodie? Have guests bring potluck dishes to swap and share recipes with the bride. You can find so much inspiration for bridal shower themes online; it’s fun and easy to come up with something truly special that still fits your budget.
How do I entertain the guests at a bridal shower? Games are a great way to bring guests together who are not as well acquainted with each other. Bring the introverts and extroverts together over a quiz about the bride and groom. Get the millennials to bond with the baby boomers over a game of bingo. And be sure to include mini prizes for the winners; it’s a game after all! If games don’t really fit the bride’s personality, consider other hands-on activities such as guests writing down marriage advice or possible date suggestions on popsicle sticks. This is a great way to get their creative juices flowing and give the bride a unique gift!
When should the bridal shower be held? It helps to choose a date early on in the wedding planning process. It’s ultimately up to the bride’s timeline, but typically bridal showers are hosted a month to two before the wedding. It’s important that as the maid of honor you coordinate the shower date with the bride’s VIPs, especially if they will be traveling from out of state.
When do you send out bridal shower invitations? Four to six weeks in advance is the ideal time to mail out or email bridal shower invitations. Good event planners know the key to a successful party is building anticipation!
Who should you invite? The guest list should be the bride’s closest friends and family. (And it goes without saying you should invite guests who have been invited to the actual wedding.)
Do I bring a gift to a bridal shower if I’m hosting? Traditionally the maid of honor provides a gift. But don’t feel like you have to break the bank. You can make something sweet and homemade, or check out the bride’s registry and pool for a gift with other bridesmaids. But most importantly, save the raunchy gifts for the bachelorette party! (Err, hello, future mother-in-law!) There you have it; you’re well on your way to throwing an epic bridal shower! Remember to focus on the bride’s personality (not just your vision!) and make her feel special. But remember, at the end of the day, don’t sweat the small things if you want the bride to do the same for you. No signature cocktail or perfectly-timed balloon drop can match the joy of spending time with your best friend!